We are all born ignorant, but one must work hard to remain stupid. ~Benjamin Franklin
And I know someone who is working really hard.
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Monday, December 14, 2009
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
The cost of raising a child
http://www.babycenter.com/cost-of-raising-child-calculator
We were watching TV last night and on one of the comedies we were watching they made a comment about how the average cost to raise a child was $342,000. Not sure if they are including college but whatever. That is an extreme amount of money.
So I got to thinking and looked up the average cost to raise a child and found the calculator on babycenter's website. Going by that calculator, the average cost to raise my daughter is roughly $208,000. That is the total amount and that is NOT including college. Over two hundred thousand dollars. Holy crap. Do you know how much child support I recieve a week? $40. Yes a whopping $40.
Let's break it down...
Average total cost (18 Years)= $208,000.
Average yearly cost= $11,555
Average monthly cost= $960
Average weekly cost= $220
Average cost that SHOULD be split between parents would then be the $220 so divided by 2 = $120
And I get $340 a week?
The way I look at it... Capt. DB really owes me roughly $37,000 in back child support. For the last 9 years. That would be the amount if he actually had paid $40 a week for 9 years. He really has only paid that $40 for maybe 4 years (rounding WAY up in his favor) and then a few payments other than that.
Kids are expensive. My daughter sees who writes the checks though, I don't need to tell her and her father can say "Your Mom takes all my money" all he wants... when she is an adult she will KNOW who supported her... so I guess that makes it worth it.
We were watching TV last night and on one of the comedies we were watching they made a comment about how the average cost to raise a child was $342,000. Not sure if they are including college but whatever. That is an extreme amount of money.
So I got to thinking and looked up the average cost to raise a child and found the calculator on babycenter's website. Going by that calculator, the average cost to raise my daughter is roughly $208,000. That is the total amount and that is NOT including college. Over two hundred thousand dollars. Holy crap. Do you know how much child support I recieve a week? $40. Yes a whopping $40.
Let's break it down...
Average total cost (18 Years)= $208,000.
Average yearly cost= $11,555
Average monthly cost= $960
Average weekly cost= $220
Average cost that SHOULD be split between parents would then be the $220 so divided by 2 = $120
And I get $340 a week?
The way I look at it... Capt. DB really owes me roughly $37,000 in back child support. For the last 9 years. That would be the amount if he actually had paid $40 a week for 9 years. He really has only paid that $40 for maybe 4 years (rounding WAY up in his favor) and then a few payments other than that.
Kids are expensive. My daughter sees who writes the checks though, I don't need to tell her and her father can say "Your Mom takes all my money" all he wants... when she is an adult she will KNOW who supported her... so I guess that makes it worth it.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
What is on my mind...
stress
Definition:
1. strain felt by somebody: mental, emotional, or physical strain caused, e.g. by anxiety or overwork. It may cause such symptoms as raised blood pressure or depression.
Stress... that is what is on my mind today. That and the whole "God doesn't give you more than you can handle" thing. That has really been bothering me... because I've certainly got way more on my plate right now than I can handle... starting with Captain DB. I don't think God had planned for him.
So I searched that quote and came up with this website... one of many. http://rickbeckman.org/bible-verse-that-says-god-will-never-give-us-more-than-we-can-handle/
And in this website I learned that maybe that isn't what God meant. And that made me feel better. Because the past couple weeks I have been telling myself that I had to handle this. I was going to be fine, despite my daily panic attacks and being unsuccessful in quitting smoking no matter how hard I try. And the weekly sobfest where I wonder if I'm a good Mother at all and if I am really doing right by Alivia.
Stress, stress, go away.
Definition:
1. strain felt by somebody: mental, emotional, or physical strain caused, e.g. by anxiety or overwork. It may cause such symptoms as raised blood pressure or depression.
Stress... that is what is on my mind today. That and the whole "God doesn't give you more than you can handle" thing. That has really been bothering me... because I've certainly got way more on my plate right now than I can handle... starting with Captain DB. I don't think God had planned for him.
So I searched that quote and came up with this website... one of many. http://rickbeckman.org/bible-verse-that-says-god-will-never-give-us-more-than-we-can-handle/
And in this website I learned that maybe that isn't what God meant. And that made me feel better. Because the past couple weeks I have been telling myself that I had to handle this. I was going to be fine, despite my daily panic attacks and being unsuccessful in quitting smoking no matter how hard I try. And the weekly sobfest where I wonder if I'm a good Mother at all and if I am really doing right by Alivia.
Stress, stress, go away.
Monday, August 24, 2009
A family is stronger if it is bound by love rather than fear...
Thinking will not overcome fear but action will.
W. Clement Stone
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Nelson Mandela
The greatest mistake we make is living in constant fear that we will make one.
John C. Maxwell
Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear.
Albert Camus
Just wanted to jot those down today. Meaning a lot to me today considering what I'm dealing with.
W. Clement Stone
I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.
Nelson Mandela
The greatest mistake we make is living in constant fear that we will make one.
John C. Maxwell
Nothing is more despicable than respect based on fear.
Albert Camus
Just wanted to jot those down today. Meaning a lot to me today considering what I'm dealing with.
Friday, August 7, 2009
Today...
should be a better day.
Tomorrow. Tomorrow is my daughter's 9th birthday. I feel the tears coming already. I cannot believe she will be 9, technically in less than 24 hours since I had her on the 8th at 12:07am. This time 9 years ago I was in labor. Time really flies.
This morning I sat beside her bed watching her sleep like a little angel... because we all know that is the only silent time I get with her and once she wakes up, I wont hear quiet again till she goes back to sleep.
I can't believe we have made it this far.
Tomorrow. Tomorrow is my daughter's 9th birthday. I feel the tears coming already. I cannot believe she will be 9, technically in less than 24 hours since I had her on the 8th at 12:07am. This time 9 years ago I was in labor. Time really flies.
This morning I sat beside her bed watching her sleep like a little angel... because we all know that is the only silent time I get with her and once she wakes up, I wont hear quiet again till she goes back to sleep.
I can't believe we have made it this far.
Monday, July 27, 2009
Trying to quit... trying to not go insane
Started taking Chantix this morning to quit smoking. I designated today as my "quit date" a few weeks ago. Feel pretty good about it. I do have a nasty stomach ache probably due to the pill. But I got that the last time I tried it so I'm just going to push through it.
Week one you continue to smoke, but cut down. You take one .5 mg pill in the morning for 3 days. Then days 4 to 7 you take a .5 mg pill in the morning and in the evening. After that it is a 1mg pill twice a day... for 11 weeks. It's a 12 week program. Last time I tried the Chantix I took it for maybe a month. It was expensive so I didn't continue it, I did quit for 6 months. This time I am in for the long haul. Even if I am paying $72 a month out of pocket. My life is worth it.
I think though, I may have picked a bad time to quit. More arguing with my daughter's dad...ie. Captain Douchebag (I will now make all references to him as Capt DB). So much so that I feel I cannot take it anymore. I have spent the last 9 years trying to keep everything OUT of court for Alivia. It doesn't seem like that is in her best interest anymore. It seems as though a lawyer may be the next road taken.
Capt DB thinks I'm... well, pick an adjective mentioned in my first blog. There isn't a name he hasn't called me.
Today my daughter cried because I can't schedule a time for her friend to spend the night for her birthday (coming up in a few weeks). I can't schedule a time because her dad won't agree on anything. He wants to say I can't have her one day because it is his weekend, yet when it is my weekend he wants her part of the time. I can't take the stress anymore. It goes so much deeper but I cannot even start to explain all the crap I have to deal with. At least not right now.
So... new plan for my blog...
1. Try to make some changes in myself to be a better mother
2. Keep trying to quit smoking
3. Keep myself from going insane while dealing with court issues involving visitation for Alivia's father.
Help.
Edit (3/8/10)... I didn't quit smoking. It didn't work out as planned.
Week one you continue to smoke, but cut down. You take one .5 mg pill in the morning for 3 days. Then days 4 to 7 you take a .5 mg pill in the morning and in the evening. After that it is a 1mg pill twice a day... for 11 weeks. It's a 12 week program. Last time I tried the Chantix I took it for maybe a month. It was expensive so I didn't continue it, I did quit for 6 months. This time I am in for the long haul. Even if I am paying $72 a month out of pocket. My life is worth it.
I think though, I may have picked a bad time to quit. More arguing with my daughter's dad...ie. Captain Douchebag (I will now make all references to him as Capt DB). So much so that I feel I cannot take it anymore. I have spent the last 9 years trying to keep everything OUT of court for Alivia. It doesn't seem like that is in her best interest anymore. It seems as though a lawyer may be the next road taken.
Capt DB thinks I'm... well, pick an adjective mentioned in my first blog. There isn't a name he hasn't called me.
Today my daughter cried because I can't schedule a time for her friend to spend the night for her birthday (coming up in a few weeks). I can't schedule a time because her dad won't agree on anything. He wants to say I can't have her one day because it is his weekend, yet when it is my weekend he wants her part of the time. I can't take the stress anymore. It goes so much deeper but I cannot even start to explain all the crap I have to deal with. At least not right now.
So... new plan for my blog...
1. Try to make some changes in myself to be a better mother
2. Keep trying to quit smoking
3. Keep myself from going insane while dealing with court issues involving visitation for Alivia's father.
Help.
Edit (3/8/10)... I didn't quit smoking. It didn't work out as planned.
Blogging isn't working out as planned...
So much for keeping track of the changes I'm trying to make in my life. It doesn't work when I forget to do things all of the time!
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